Written from the perspective of a judge, who is also a divorced person, this book helps you realize that you are not alone. The experience is painful to everyone, but this book can help you make it through without too much misery by following a few simple steps. If you have always taken the high road in your dealings with others, this is no time to go against your nature. People that have been married can part ways and, if not be friends, at least treat each other with dignity and respect. By setting out things that need to be considered logically before making the plunge into the murky waters of the divorce court system. It isn"t an easy system. From clerks to judges, you will be met by a cast of characters who may seem to have confusing you as their only goal. Often the system is like a giant octopus, its tentacles ready to reach out and ensnare its victim. The bigger the fight the victim (you) puts up, the tighter its grip (the more confusing the system), and the farther you seem from the shore (from getting divorced). You didn"t know the octopus was there; you thought you knew the route from point A to point B. Suddenly a frightening new element was introduced into the equation. You felt you would never wade into the courtroom for the final hearing. You need an alternative to the costly nastiness that seems to be a trademark of divorce. During the past twenty (20) years, I have seen people squander tens of thousands of dollars on lawyers and experts to help them win in court. Sometimes the money was spent in divorces with large estates. Other times it was spent to make sure a party got custody of the children. Often, both property and children were at stake. This book will make a world of difference for you.